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Jennifer Gandin Le
Beauty in a Wicked World: The “Other” in Your Family
5 Comments | posted April 18th, 2007 at 09:23 am by Jennifer Gandin Le

Gandin LeLast September, I married my dear friend and roommate, Chris.

Fifty years ago, we could have been arrested in 24 states for doing so.

Now, we’re part of a trend.

From last week’s AP article entitled “40 years after landmark ruling, interracial marriage flourishing in U.S.”:

Factoring in all racial combinations, Stanford University sociologist Michael Rosenfeld calculates that more than 7 percent of America’s 59 million married couples in 2005 were interracial, compared to less than 2 percent in 1970.

Later in the article, Rosenfeld says, “The racial divide in the U.S. is a fundamental divide. … but when you have the ‘other’ in your own family, it’s hard to think of them as ‘other’ anymore.”

This is a powerful statement, especially when such families were made legal in the U.S. only 40 years ago with the Supreme Court decision Loving v. Virginia. (For more information about this decision, check out the cool campaign and June 12th holiday called Loving Day.)

Lest I appear biased: I don’t believe that interracial partnerships are inherently better than monoracial ones. I do believe that they offer powerful potential to slowly shifting racist attitudes within a family and community — not that every relationship will fulfill that potential.

I find these increasing numbers beautiful because they aren’t just numbers. They’re hundreds of thousands of love stories that might not have been told half a century ago.

I’m all for widening our ideas of who we “can” or “should” love. If we can push these boundaries in our love relationships, we practice pushing them on an everyday basis — maybe you’ll think twice about the almost unconscious assumptions you make while walking down the street.

Wide minds and empathy are the best tools we have for making this world less wicked and a lot more beautiful.

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There are currently 5 responses

  1. I adore this idea that our love relationship can teach us how to be better partners in our other relationships.

    April 18th, 2007 | 9:45 am
  2. Joie Jager-Hyman

    In racially diverse society such as ours, I find it kind of strange that only 7 percent of marriages are interracial (even though I’m a Jewish girl from Long Island marrying a Jewish boy from New Jersey). I guess it speaks to the extreme segregation that still persists.

    Jennifer, you and Chris definitely make the world a little less wicked and a lot more beautiful. Just look at the wedding picture, man!

    April 18th, 2007 | 11:43 am
  3. Word. Obviously.

    April 18th, 2007 | 2:43 pm
  4. I love this. xo

    April 23rd, 2007 | 11:28 am
  5. Also -

    Once you go Viet, you know that’s the Seit!

    June 15th, 2007 | 10:47 am

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